What part of this do some men not get?
Absolutely every one of the sexual assault survival students I instruct have had to deal with this.
Their training purges that anger and a personal vow to never allow that aggression against them again.
Many take their newly acquired physical and communication skills to an ultimate level prepared to fight immediately...no discussion.

SAFE DATING
What is a safe date?
It’s not just about where you go — having a good date means having a safe date, too. A “safe date” is a dating situation where you are comfortable and feel that your boundaries are being respected. Knowing and recognizing your personal boundaries, what a safe date is and what signs of gender-based violence look like can help you stay away from harm.
https://www.jonathanmccormick.com/forum/your-safety/safe-dating-setting-boundaries